I've come to realize that while I LOVE to write, I obviously don't have a hang of blogging yet. Chalk it up to a busy life a lack of motivation I guess, but here I am, back at the computer, trying again. Thanks to the 2 followers I kinda feel like I should put something down once in awhile, mainly because I get such a huge amount of enjoyment from reading both of their blogs.
So, why shall we "tri" this again? Cause my first triathlon is a short two months away. Then I have to find and finalize two more to do by December. See, I got it into my crazy head that if BFFJ can do this, so can I. And even yet, if I'm going to do one triathlon, why not two...why not three. Three tri's the year I turn 30. Sounds pretty good to me. :)
In the midst of finally getting a set training pattern (bike one day a week with the girls, run one day a week with same girls, add short runs 2-3 more days a week, and PRAY that I don't need much training at the pool because I don't currently have access to one...) I'm still working 24hr shifts and I'm moving. Gosh, what fun it will be to pack up an entire house full of junk and haul it 2.5mi down the road to the new one (thanks landloard for that lovely forclosure notice on my door, wonder where my rent check has been going, it keeps getting cashed). But as I step back and look, I have to drop all sarcasim and really give thanks. To Him, who's watching over me through all this. As I look back on the last 12 months I see how far I've come, dropped 60 pounds and gained even more confidence. Made peace with my past and became ready to move forward. Looking at the bigger picture I see how He's even covered me in this move and found a place for me to go. God is good.
People have always said "in the midst of change, you can choose to move forward, or let the world move forward without you." Here's to a 2.5mi move, a 0.5mi swim, 13mi bike, and 3.1mi run. And here's to moving forward.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Who I am? The evolution of friendships.
For the past few weeks, I've been in what I like to think of as a "transition" stage in my life. What would I do, who would I be, if I had the freedom to accomplish that? Well, life as a paramedic is extremely frustrating and abusive, but also incredibly satisfying, so I don't think I would change that. I'm going to Disney World with BFF in December, and training for the tri. So, I'm thinking the "do" part is covered. So how about "who would I be"? Hmmm....
Trying to figure out who I would be means I have to define who I am. And in order to define who I am, I take a good, long look at those closest to me, my friends. The majority of my closest friends (translation - best) I have known for many many years. Some dating back to freshman year of high school, 1 who will hit the decade mark soon, and 1 who I've know for around 4. And as I've watched each of them grow into wonderful, loving, caring, productive, confident adults, I wonder, have they done the same with me?
Although thinking about the past brings up feelings of nostalgia and what might have been's, I have no regrets as to the direction each of my friendships have taken. Each has their own special place in my heart, and while life takes a journey, so must we.
BFF has been one of the "long timers." No longer my friend, but my sister. The one I met in high school, at music camp. We live in different states and were friends for 2 weeks one summer. Something that should have ended with the new school year stuck like glue into a now 14+ (or is it officially 15?) year friendship. She's the one I could talk to for hours, not talk for months, then talk again like we had never put down the phone. And as we grew, so did the bond forged through similar life experiences, desires, goals, commitment, and her amazing ability to be all the things I want to be. She's the one who encourages me to do the things I want to do, and some of the things I didn't know I wanted (um...really, a triathlon?!). She's also the first to pick me up when I'm down, and the first to kick my @$$ when I'm being a butt. Sympathetic and supportive, she's also knows when to say, "enough of that, let's move forward." And she somehow manages to do this with grace and ease, 400 miles from where I call home.
The Two are the friends I met as an awkward freshman at a small Catholic HS. Three polar opposites, we still, to this day, can't figure out how we became or remained friends. We just figured that, somehow in the process of fitting in, while everyone else branched off, we just stuck together. One was the beautiful blond goddess who got the boys attention, and kept it. The other, equally as beautiful in her own right, was the book worm. I, the "fat" kid played sports (stop laughing, somehow I made it work). And yet there we were, inseparable to this day. We've been through HS, college, bar hopping, marriage, divorce, un-wed pregnancy, loss of childhood pets, loss of Dad, loss of baby brother, loss of hope in a future and God, recovery, finding true love, a second marriage, a planned pregnancy, finding faith again, and ultimately finding peace with ourselves. Sure they're both married with kids (and one on the way) and I'm divorced, but when someone has something come up, the other two show. Just the way it's always been.
Ry is the best "guy" friend that I met at work a few years back. We were partners which translates to spending, oh, a third of our life together. 24 hour shifts without leaving the others side (well, yeah with the exception of...ahem...potty breaks). He was the one who quietly, without actually saying anything, encouraged me to get back with God. And a couple years later, he was the one to baptize me. A true leader by example, while still making life fun (and yes, I remember him mooning the other ambo late one night while driving down the road-did I mention he was the one driving?). I'm still part of his life and his family, even though we haven't been partners for awhile now.
KT is the bff I met at church. Our introduction was pretty informal, I needed a roommate, she needed a room. The first conversation we had involved "hi nice to meet you, when are you moving in?" We've led a youth group, became children's leaders, sang in the worship team, left the church, partied, drank, went back to church, drove to California in the middle of the night to watch the sunrise from the beach just to turn around and drive back, got married, got divorced, got pregnant, had a baby, tried going back to church, and through it all laughed, cried, loved and lived together.
While I think about the impact each person has had on my life, I think of how much we've all changed. While no one person, myself included, is perfect, each friendship in its own way, is. Things that were SOOOO important in HS, aren't now. And days and weeks go by without talking to Ry. BFF continues to encourage me daily and is my accountability partner, not just with training and weight loss, but with life in general. The Two still make me laugh and I truly cherish our, what once was girls night, "girls' breakfast mondays." My friendship with KT has developed into something new entirely. We still have our nights that involve nothing more than a bottle of wine and a bible, but we also have a "quiet" friendship. One marked by the ability to be content in each other's company, rocking a baby to sleep.
So as I think about what defines me and who I want to be, I realize that I'm pretty content with where I'm going. Talking on the phone long distance while planning reaching (and swimming, biking, running) for a goal AND the trip of a lifetime with my BFF, planning a baby shower for one-half of The Two, meeting Ry and his girls (wife and daughter) for breakfast, or holding a baby while drinking a glass of wine and talking about God...this is who I am, and who I want to be.
Trying to figure out who I would be means I have to define who I am. And in order to define who I am, I take a good, long look at those closest to me, my friends. The majority of my closest friends (translation - best) I have known for many many years. Some dating back to freshman year of high school, 1 who will hit the decade mark soon, and 1 who I've know for around 4. And as I've watched each of them grow into wonderful, loving, caring, productive, confident adults, I wonder, have they done the same with me?
Although thinking about the past brings up feelings of nostalgia and what might have been's, I have no regrets as to the direction each of my friendships have taken. Each has their own special place in my heart, and while life takes a journey, so must we.
BFF has been one of the "long timers." No longer my friend, but my sister. The one I met in high school, at music camp. We live in different states and were friends for 2 weeks one summer. Something that should have ended with the new school year stuck like glue into a now 14+ (or is it officially 15?) year friendship. She's the one I could talk to for hours, not talk for months, then talk again like we had never put down the phone. And as we grew, so did the bond forged through similar life experiences, desires, goals, commitment, and her amazing ability to be all the things I want to be. She's the one who encourages me to do the things I want to do, and some of the things I didn't know I wanted (um...really, a triathlon?!). She's also the first to pick me up when I'm down, and the first to kick my @$$ when I'm being a butt. Sympathetic and supportive, she's also knows when to say, "enough of that, let's move forward." And she somehow manages to do this with grace and ease, 400 miles from where I call home.
The Two are the friends I met as an awkward freshman at a small Catholic HS. Three polar opposites, we still, to this day, can't figure out how we became or remained friends. We just figured that, somehow in the process of fitting in, while everyone else branched off, we just stuck together. One was the beautiful blond goddess who got the boys attention, and kept it. The other, equally as beautiful in her own right, was the book worm. I, the "fat" kid played sports (stop laughing, somehow I made it work). And yet there we were, inseparable to this day. We've been through HS, college, bar hopping, marriage, divorce, un-wed pregnancy, loss of childhood pets, loss of Dad, loss of baby brother, loss of hope in a future and God, recovery, finding true love, a second marriage, a planned pregnancy, finding faith again, and ultimately finding peace with ourselves. Sure they're both married with kids (and one on the way) and I'm divorced, but when someone has something come up, the other two show. Just the way it's always been.
Ry is the best "guy" friend that I met at work a few years back. We were partners which translates to spending, oh, a third of our life together. 24 hour shifts without leaving the others side (well, yeah with the exception of...ahem...potty breaks). He was the one who quietly, without actually saying anything, encouraged me to get back with God. And a couple years later, he was the one to baptize me. A true leader by example, while still making life fun (and yes, I remember him mooning the other ambo late one night while driving down the road-did I mention he was the one driving?). I'm still part of his life and his family, even though we haven't been partners for awhile now.
KT is the bff I met at church. Our introduction was pretty informal, I needed a roommate, she needed a room. The first conversation we had involved "hi nice to meet you, when are you moving in?" We've led a youth group, became children's leaders, sang in the worship team, left the church, partied, drank, went back to church, drove to California in the middle of the night to watch the sunrise from the beach just to turn around and drive back, got married, got divorced, got pregnant, had a baby, tried going back to church, and through it all laughed, cried, loved and lived together.
While I think about the impact each person has had on my life, I think of how much we've all changed. While no one person, myself included, is perfect, each friendship in its own way, is. Things that were SOOOO important in HS, aren't now. And days and weeks go by without talking to Ry. BFF continues to encourage me daily and is my accountability partner, not just with training and weight loss, but with life in general. The Two still make me laugh and I truly cherish our, what once was girls night, "girls' breakfast mondays." My friendship with KT has developed into something new entirely. We still have our nights that involve nothing more than a bottle of wine and a bible, but we also have a "quiet" friendship. One marked by the ability to be content in each other's company, rocking a baby to sleep.
So as I think about what defines me and who I want to be, I realize that I'm pretty content with where I'm going. Talking on the phone long distance while planning reaching (and swimming, biking, running) for a goal AND the trip of a lifetime with my BFF, planning a baby shower for one-half of The Two, meeting Ry and his girls (wife and daughter) for breakfast, or holding a baby while drinking a glass of wine and talking about God...this is who I am, and who I want to be.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
My Mosaic
Hello, and welcome to My Mosaic. For sometime now, I've had quite a few friends tell me I should get into this whole "blogging" thing, but as an American, and procrastinator (I do believe the two go hand in hand), I've put it off. It wasn't until sheer exasperation at not being able to subscribe to and comment on a BFF's blog, did it finally sink in, maybe I should just jump on the bandwagon.
And in all honesty, it's probably not a bad idea. I, who at one time used to have a journal in my purse, car, nightstand, locker at work, and various other places, have not put down any semblance of thought or feeling onto paper since, well since before I got married. I've since been divorced (recently), and while the wounds are still deep and very, very painful, I realized that it's time to start to heal. One way to do that? Write it down.
Now, before anybody freaks out about this being a "male-bashing, chick-crying, whining, complaining, heart ache and break" blog, I want to reassure you that, no, I do NOT plan on wallowing in self pity (although there may be moments, I do plan on being honest in this blog). I did that long enough, and it's time to move forward. Fortunately, I have AWESOME friends who back me on this, and one particular BFF (same one kicking me to start blogging) that supports me in everything, and challenges me to grow, not wilt away.
As I take the small steps to a better life, I'm excited for the first time since BEFORE I got married. There are goals, and plans, and achievements that I can visualize myself doing. My life is slowly becoming mine again. I've recently started training for a triathlon that I'm doing with same BFF, we're starting a weight loss plan together, I've gone back to church, and I've started the process of forgiveness, not just for the ex, but also for myself. A huge first step in allowing the past to be the past, and the future to be all that it was meant to be. And to celebrate the new me, I'm going with BFF to Disney World in December. Very exciting times ahead.
So why, Mosaic, as a name for this blog? Well, when registering for this, they asked what I wanted to call it. And as I began to think about all the reasons I want to start writing a blog, and all the things I want to say in it, I realized that my life is far from perfect. In fact, since the day shortly before Christmas when I heard the crushing words, "I want a divorce," I felt as though my life was shattered into a thousand pieces. And as I think about being broken, I realized that it's time to start putting them back together, but not with everything in the same place it was before. I also realized that, I WANT my life to be like a mosaic. Broken and rearranged, put back together into something far more beautiful.
And in all honesty, it's probably not a bad idea. I, who at one time used to have a journal in my purse, car, nightstand, locker at work, and various other places, have not put down any semblance of thought or feeling onto paper since, well since before I got married. I've since been divorced (recently), and while the wounds are still deep and very, very painful, I realized that it's time to start to heal. One way to do that? Write it down.
Now, before anybody freaks out about this being a "male-bashing, chick-crying, whining, complaining, heart ache and break" blog, I want to reassure you that, no, I do NOT plan on wallowing in self pity (although there may be moments, I do plan on being honest in this blog). I did that long enough, and it's time to move forward. Fortunately, I have AWESOME friends who back me on this, and one particular BFF (same one kicking me to start blogging) that supports me in everything, and challenges me to grow, not wilt away.
As I take the small steps to a better life, I'm excited for the first time since BEFORE I got married. There are goals, and plans, and achievements that I can visualize myself doing. My life is slowly becoming mine again. I've recently started training for a triathlon that I'm doing with same BFF, we're starting a weight loss plan together, I've gone back to church, and I've started the process of forgiveness, not just for the ex, but also for myself. A huge first step in allowing the past to be the past, and the future to be all that it was meant to be. And to celebrate the new me, I'm going with BFF to Disney World in December. Very exciting times ahead.
So why, Mosaic, as a name for this blog? Well, when registering for this, they asked what I wanted to call it. And as I began to think about all the reasons I want to start writing a blog, and all the things I want to say in it, I realized that my life is far from perfect. In fact, since the day shortly before Christmas when I heard the crushing words, "I want a divorce," I felt as though my life was shattered into a thousand pieces. And as I think about being broken, I realized that it's time to start putting them back together, but not with everything in the same place it was before. I also realized that, I WANT my life to be like a mosaic. Broken and rearranged, put back together into something far more beautiful.
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